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Dear daddyJ’s – 6-9-11

Okay boys and girls, here is our legal disclaimer: the following “advice” column is for entertainment purposes and should not be used in the place of professional counseling. Each situation is different and your specific circumstance may require further investigation and assistance by a trained professional.

We take a no-nonsense approach to other people’s problems. You can always count on that. So with that in mind, if you would like some assistance on a particular issue, send us your questions to daddyjs@bringingdaddyback.com.

Dear daddyJ’s,

Do you want to watch your child being born? Prefer to stay up by your wife’s head? Or don’t want to be in the room at all? I’m curious as to what all of the men prefer. – TO WATCH OR NOT TO WATCH IN VERNAL?

daddyjeff

To each his own on this one. However, I personally did not watch the birth of my two sons per se. I occupied my time holding one of my wife’s hands repeating the words, “Push, you can do it, and breath” in whatever order addressed the need at the moment. My body was to my wife’s side but I was steadfastly facing her head and my back was facing towards the “affected area”.

Video cameras were outlawed because there are some things only a trained professional should handle. My personal opinion is that doctors go to school for about 8 years for a reason. And that reason is because it takes that long to numb someone to the site of a bloody head poking out of a va-jayjay. I didn’t cut the chord. (And maybe I should have) I also didn’t eat the placenta. We’ll just leave that to those freaks that come out at night.

daddyjason

I think the days of the men hanging out in the waiting room, telling war stories and passing out cigars really was the epitome of male involvement in the birthing process. I think most men, secretly on the inside, agree with me. That being said, it’s pretty standard for men to be in the birthing room now. But being IN the room and WATCHING what’s happening are two different things. Be there, be supportive…but be careful where you look. Some things can never be forgotten…

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Dear daddyJ’s,

A few months ago, my best friend from childhood, “Stacey,” got married. I was her maid of honor. Stacey’s parents have been separated since we graduated high school but just haven’t divorced yet (financial reasons). Anyway, at the wedding, I had more than a few drinks (after all, it was open bar and my job as MOH was to lead the fun). Stacey’s dad, “Bob,” and I started talking. A lot. When we were teens, Stacey’s friends and I used to joke that her dad was hot. Well, wow. He actually is. There was a connection. Needless to say, it was awkward around Stacey’s mom since she used to make us cookies all the time and here I am flirting with her almost ex-husband. He’s my best friend’s dad. It’s weird, I know. Anyway, after the wedding, Bob and I started dating. We didn’t tell anyone. He makes me laugh, has great taste in wine, and well, let’s just say that there’s some benefits to dating an older, more experienced man.

I’ve wanted to tell Stacey but there really is no easy way to say it. Her parents are separated and are going to divorce, but it still really bothers her. Bob wants to tell her, but I’ve been taking an “I’ll deal with it tomorrow” approach. But here’s the real problem. Bob has Red Sox season tickets. He has four seats for their next game against the Yankees. He wants to invite Stacey and her husband. And me. Can we say awkward? I know I need to tell Stacey and I certainly don’t want a scene at Fenway. (I mean, it’s the Yankees!). How do I tell her? I don’t want to ruin anything. I am enjoying my time with Bob. I like him and I want to keep seeing him. I also don’t want to lose my best friend. Do I just show up at the game with Bob and hope she doesn’t flip out? Do I talk to her ahead of time? Does Bob tell her? – I’M IN LOVE WITH STACEY’S DAD IN BOSTON

daddyjeff

There are a ton of issues going on here and most of them revolve around you. Nonetheless, I think this is best answered in song.

I know that…

[Chorus]
Stacey’s Dad must have it goin’ on,
He’s what you want,
The divorce is taking so long,
Stacey can’t you see,
You’re friend is a hoe fo sho,
It’s so totally wrong,
That you’re in love with Stacy’s Dad.

That potentially was a tad bit harsh, but we here at Bringing Daddy Back despise divorces. They are ill-advised solutions and fail to resolve the core issue of the problem. In most cases, divorces cause more problems than whatever issue existed in the first place that “caused” the divorce. Besides, they are still married so you will be forever entrenched in the “Home-wrecker” category regardless of how you justify your actions.

So to answer your question, it really doesn’t matter when you tell her. Stacey is going to be irate at you and angry at her dad for some unspecified time period. Honesty is always the best policy and if she is ever going to be your friend again, the sooner you tell her then the sooner time will start to take effect and the sooner that will happen (if it ever does). My actual suggestion is that you end this love affair so that maybe some type of reconciliation, if possible, may begin and the divorce will be averted.

Nonetheless, thanks for the question. I really enjoyed listening to some Fountains of Wayne as I prepared my response.

daddyjason

I just don’t think it’s cool that you were flirting with Stacey’s dad when her mom was making you cookies. I think you might have crossed some sort of line there. And I’m not sure but I’m thinking Stacey isn’t going to be cool with the fact that you trace your relationship to her dad back to her own wedding. The whole thing leaves a bad taste in my mouth…tastes like burned cookies. I think the Red Sox game is the least of your worries. I don’t see any way this doesn’t end with Stacey flipping out. It’s going to be uglier than what the Yankees are going to do to the Sox. I suggest you skip the game and spend that time finding a new best friend cause the one you got is gonna be gone at the end of this story.

Editor’s Note: to avoid being accused of plagiarism, we must state that we can neither confirm or deny whether we may have possibly “borrowed” these questions (with some editing) from online sources until we begin to receive actual questions. Just sayin’.

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What a Daddy Can Learn from the Bible – Jeremiah’s Call and Commission

Jeremiah’s Call and Commission

4 Now the word of the LORD came to me saying,
5 “Before I formed you in the womb I knew you,
And before you were born I consecrated you;
I have appointed you a prophet to the nations.”
6 Then I said, “Alas, Lord GOD!
Behold, I do not know how to speak,
Because I am a youth.”
7 But the LORD said to me,
“Do not say, ‘I am a youth,’
Because everywhere I send you, you shall go,
And all that I command you, you shall speak.
8 “Do not be afraid of them,
For I am with you to deliver you,” declares the LORD.

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It is not my intention to use these verses out of context necessarily. I am acutely aware that God is speaking directly to Jeremiah here about being a prophet to the kings and people of Judah so that they repent and turn away from their wickedness and turn back to the One True God. I’m aware that this is more a record of a particular event rather than a teaching lesson (i.e., one of Jesus’ parables).

However, there are concepts here that I think a Daddy can gain hope in. First, God knew us even before we were formed in the womb. I don’t believe that God was only able to know Jeremiah before his birth. I think he was simply reiterating to Jeremiah a small scope of his awesomeness. He knew us all. There were personalities and attributes given to us by God that would one day prepare us for daddyhood. Obviously not all of us were consecrated and appointed to be prophets to leaders of nations, but we were all purposed to follow God’s instruction by being faithful spouses, honest employees, and God-fearing parents.

Second, age is not an excuse. A daddy can love his children and desire to be a positive role model at any point in his life. Children can understand mistakes, but children will never understand why their daddy didn’t love them. I know there have been times when I felt stupid as a parent. I’ve wondered if I handled certain situations correctly and I blamed my youth and inexperience for any wrongdoing. While those appear to be valid justifications for missteps, it’s important to keep in mind the purpose of parenting. As far as I’m concerned, when all is said and done, I’ve fulfilled my ultimate goal as a parent when both of my boys have been born again through their acceptance of Jesus Christ as their Lord and Savior.

If your heart is in the right place, your kids will know it and there will always be hope as we find later in the book of Jeremiah.

Jeremiah 29:11: (NASB)
11 For I know the plans that I have for you,’ declares the LORD, ‘plans for welfare and not for calamity to give you a future and a hope.

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Dear daddyJ’s – 5-26-11

Okay boys and girls, here is our legal disclaimer: the following “advice” column is for entertainment purposes and should not be used in the place of professional counseling. Each situation is different and your specific circumstance may require further investigation and assistance by a trained professional.

We take a no-nonsense approach to other people’s problems. You can always count on that. So with that in mind, if you would like some assistance on a particular issue, send us your questions to daddyjs@bringingdaddyback.com.

Dear daddyJ’s,

There are times when my wife doesn’t make any sense to me. I don’t understand her. Can you help? – CONFUSED IN TUCSON

daddyjeff

See that picture? It’s supposedly Volume 1 on a book about women. We haven’t made it past the Table of Contents. The fact that she is a woman inherently implies a lack of understanding on your part. So, no. We can’t help you. Sorry.

The best thing to do is nod in agreement. Even if she comes home with new furniture, you will still come out on top. Time is money and no man really has that kind of time.

daddyjason

It’s unlikely. Since I have plenty of trouble understanding my own wife at times I have doubts that I will be able to understand yours.

I’m joking, of course (well, sort of). The truth is that our mates can be hard to understand sometimes…especially when we’re looking at them through our own point of view. The easiest way of getting to understand your wife better is…wait for it…asking her!

Communication! The pillar of any good relationship is being able to communicate with the other person. You see, God made us all different and there is no one perfect way of understanding another person (especially of the opposite sex). However, by talking to that person, sharing things with that person, and seeking to get to know that person, you also learn how to understand them – you will learn to put yourself in her shoes and see where she’s coming from. Her actions and statements that once confused and bewildered you will actually start to make sense! It’s like magic, but better because you don’t have to distract anyone with prestidigitation (sleight of hand).

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Dear daddyJ’s,

Our daughter, “Julie,” came home for the weekend so we could meet her new boyfriend, “Scott.” He’s a delightful young man, and my daughter is clearly smitten.

When I suggested Scott sleep in the guest room, Julie and my wife gave me this perplexed look as though I’m from a different planet. In the end, I was deeply disappointed that they shared a bedroom. After 30 years of marriage, this created the first disagreement between my wife and me in a long time.

I’m no prude. My wife and I had our share of premarital mambo, but we always slept in separate rooms while visiting our families before we were married. It was about respect for our parents’ feelings.

Julie spends a lot of time with Scott’s family where they share a room. My wife is afraid if we don’t provide common accommodations in our home, our daughter will be less inclined to visit.

I welcome your thoughts. Is expecting some sense of propriety being a curmudgeonly father? — STUMPED AND TRUMPED IN OHIO

daddyjeff

First of all, mommajulie and I are going to have a little talk. I need to make sure there are no unapproved extracurricular activities going on around here.

Second of all, I’m going to need you to put on your big boy pants. Oh wait… nevermind, she already has them on. Truthfully, this is a conversation that should have happened long ago, or at the very least once everyone knew visitors were coming. You both need to be on the same page as parents so that when adversity strikes, you can lean on each other for support without fear of the bottom dropping out beneath you. It’s never safe to assume you each know what each other is thinking, especially when it’s your wife.

Age was not given, but since you’ve been married for 30 years, I think it’s safe to assume that “Julie” is an adult by this point. While you still hold the role of guide and teacher, she has probably already formed her own personal moral standards. God will take over from here. I would suggest sitting your wife down in the time out chair… no wait… I mean, sitting your wife down after you’ve made dinner and talk it out. Make sure you have clear cut reasons to support your decision so that next time there is no question as to what the sleeping arrangements are going to be.

Lastly, don’t ever use the word curmudgeonly again.

daddyjason

It’s obvious that you are right and your wife is wrong. And I’m not just saying that because you’re the dad. Just like you mentioned, this is a matter of respect. Now, it would be easy to say this is a moral or religious issue and to say that they shouldn’t be sleeping in the same room simply because they’re not yet married…which is true in your house…but it goes past that argument.

Your wife’s argument kind of sounds like the old classic, “everyone else is doing it,” which doesn’t fly with daddyjason. After all, if everyone else were jumping off a bridge… Your daughter should respect your feelings in this manner whether they stem from your religious beliefs or not and whether it has any bearing on whether or not she has premarital sex at any other time. It doesn’t have to happen under your roof and you have every right to ask that even the appearance of it be dealt with by having them sleep in separate rooms.

I’d hate to suggest you break out the Head of Household card and put your foot down but if you feel strongly enough about it that you took the time to write someone you’ve never met for advice…well, maybe it’s time…and I don’t mean that in a sexist way. But you have every right to ask for respect in this situation and if they won’t give it to you, you should demand it. It’s your house and you make the rules. Hey, that actually fits this situation.

The truth is your wife will know you are right, and, though she may be upset that you’re taking a stand that could result in her seeing less of her daughter, I believe she’ll support you in the end. And yes, your daughter could choose to not visit so she won’t have to abide by your sleep arrangements, but in the end I think she too will see that this is a matter of respect and will respect you enough to acquiesce to your request. After all, she is your daughter.

Editor’s Note: to avoid being accused of plagiarism, we must state that we can neither confirm or deny whether we may have possibly “borrowed” the second question from a Dear Abby submission. Just sayin’.

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